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War of the Genders

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Friday, March 11, 2005

The Gentle Sex

There is yet another silly stereotype that women are gentle creatures and that if women were in charge, and in a matriarchical society, there would be less wars and suffering.

Now it's true that most women are much less prone to violence and crimes despite numerous reported cases of female abuse at homes and their slap-happy, knee-in-the-groin urges. But then again, I've seen plenty of vindictive angry women that mete out nasty revenge, I've seen passive-aggressive women that emotionally abuse their family for decades, I've heard and witnessed endless horror stories about nasty divorces with wives that nurture their grudges and inflict punishment on their ex-husbands for years, I've talked with Dominatrixes and it's pretty obvious that they are exponentially more cruel and merciless than their male counterparts. And then there are the infamous news stories like the one where a woman carefully planned an attack on a pregnant lady, ripped out the baby and claimed it as her own.

Turns out this kind of thing happened at least six times already.

'Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned' isn't a good tag-line for a movie about female revenge - it's reality. Women may not get physical often, but their revenge and abuse is even more devastating and devious than men's. Unfortunately, the law only defines male-oriented crimes as punishable and isn't subtle enough to handle the female needles and backstage manipulations.

The important question however is how can all this be compatible with the female gentleness we all know so well?

The answer, in my eyes, is simple: As I mentioned in a previous post, the same emotions and sensitivity that make the woman into what she is, can easily backfire and push her to the other extreme. A woman is a gentle creature until she is twisted by circumstance and turned into a monster. The same driving sensitivity that felt others' pain turns towards inner pain and humiliation to the point where basic morals and sanity are eclipsed. Violent women are not cold psychotics; their inner wounds keep the fires burning for years and their violence is always personal.

While it may be fair to say that men drive women to this often, the same can be said about women being trouble-makers and driving men to violence and no-one but Feminazis would honestly claim that men are always to blame.

So are women relatively much gentler creatures? Yes. Are they less prone to violence and crime? Yes. Are they always gentle? Definitely not. Are women more stable and reliable? Obviously not. When they commit violence, is it gentler in nature? Absolutely not - they are much more extreme when it comes to pain and usually go at it for much longer.

Conclusion: Female gentleness is a myth and the ideal of a matriarchical society is about as imbecilic and illogical as the argument that intelligent life-forms are inherently compassionate. I don't need to live in a feministic utopia to know that women are only moral and gentle when they're in the mood.


Blogger Yudah Toledano said...

Dear Baron

For many reasons, some of them obviously personal, I couldn’t resist the temptation to post few observations.

“The gentler sex”, as you said in the last sentence a few article: “I don’t need to live in a feministic utopia to know that women are only moral and gentle when they’re in the mood.”
I don’t have the choice but to agree to this statement but I think that it expresses only half truth and probably even less. According to me, behind any popular sentence or expression hides a grotesque or even a monstrous lie.
Let’s try and analyze these words: first let’s try to forget the word sex; it does deserve its own essay. So let’s concentrate on the remaining two words “the gentle”. Well, “the”: when there are only two possibilities, the, implies that only an exclusively this one merits the qualification which follows, so when saying those world we are establishing as a fact that when we have in front of us to people one male the other female, automatically we’re never going to attribute the gentleness to the former. To me it looks very unbalanced and none a justified position to be taken seriously.
Unless there is a good reasoning behind, it sounds, and taking into consideration the few interesting points to consider that you mention, as an absolute gratuitous statement.
“Gentle”: What’s so gentle in a female? If we’re going to start from the physical domain a woman’s body is softer than the male body, less angular more “roundish”, I think everybody will agree to that except of course some males with different “sexuality orientation” . If that’s the issue you can easily argue, and please don’t take me wrong--- what I am about to say is for argumentation purposes only; snakes are smoother than dogs! And dogs can be very gentle and emotional! Well, I know, you women, are getting all jumpy---interesting to know why, after all I’m just try to define a concept---I never said, and God forbid I never had the intention to compare females with snakes, but obviously you have to take my word for it.

If we are going to compare female voice to male’s one, I think we are going to be surprised to find female voice, soprano kind is harder-harsher than male’s bass kind or even tenor. Is it a coincidence that hysterical behavior was historically related to women?
Forget history; ask any shrink, he will tell you about it. I know, feminists virulently opposed those views, so then if you have the occasion to be present at a male and female quarrel, when both are in “flames”, which one you think you are going to hear best?

Ok, women in general posses and nicer “form” to present themselves or whatever they want to tell or sell to you, but please just consider, perhaps, “nature” for some reason gave her an additional tool in order to finally get her way? Why for heaven sake you will consider this additional power as “gentle”?

Just at the beginning off your essay you write: “there is yet another silly stereotype that women are gentle and that if women where in charge, and in a matriarchical society, there would be less wars and suffering.”
We don’t have to go deep into history to find out how false this is. Let’s consider few contemporary cases: Margaret Thatcher and the Falklands---sending young kids to kill and to get kill for some stupid British sense off pseudo justice, at the same time she can fight to death coal miners who are struggling to survive---who said that charity begins at home?
Just to mentioned few others, Golda Meir in Israel, Evita Peron in Argentina, Indira Shrimati Gandhi in India, and some others, all of them where tough ladies without mercy, yes, maybe they had “gentle form”…
I honestly think, and that’s obviously just my personal view, that if women where in control, maybe the world wouldn’t at this moment exist at all, just imagine at the head of the United States of America Margaret Thatcher and at the other side-the Soviet Union, Evita Peron??!! A world war would be merely just another picnic!
It isn’t worth talking about all these women behind the scenes, May Almighty God save us all!

You write: “…that women are on the moral and gentler when they’re in the in the mood”
Hundred percent! the problem that in order for the woman to “be in the mood” she needs so many details to be in place that it’s very hard, not to say impossible, for the average poor male to even know what the hell he suppose to do, and what’s even worse, what is supposed to happen---many of this things are beyond his control all together.
Lets me share with you a personal secret: one of the reasons for this difficulty---to find what she really want , and be careful, I didn’t say that this will cover it all, they, the woman in front of you doesn’t know herself ! In fact she wants you to figure it up all by yourself---quite a job! And what’s worse, most of the time and ungrateful one!

Sorry, I can’t resist, I do have to say something about this word “sex”: On the surface the male sexual act looks more violent an invading for than the female “side” hers looks “softer”-“gentler”. What an eye trap! Any body with eyes in his eyeball instead of an xxx video camera will see and understand the opposite, but in order not to awake some sleeping beauties I will stop here---I didn’t say anything---I am innocent!

In fact the only valid an understandable solution lies in Jewish thinking, but unfortunately it’s a long subject to be developed in a short post, so I wish you good luck and better times, in fact I wish that too to these stupid feminists and feminized as well---unfortunately, or it will be more fortunate to say: fortunately---we share the same planet and the same world and it is a inconceivable to imagine one being happy without the other. In my opinion we are in desperate need off emotional and intellectual honesty and maybe also in desperate necessity to acquired the essential tools to get reed of our laziness and our own complacency!

Best regards

A women chauvinist.

March 12, 2005 11:53 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

About the "sex" thing, I just think both male and female have been "designed" to behave in the way they should, by instinct should I say. So it's also unfair to say that one of the genders have the upper hand when it comes to intercourse. Man and woman each have her or his own responsibilities but they are complements to each other, not competitors. It's just irrational to compare how much pleasure a woman gets or is able to get with how much a man gets or he is able in sexual perspective... it's like apple with oranges...

I can't help but agree that women are much gentler than men in general but this doesn't come without a price... they are also more violent when at their worsts... That's why men are given more power over things through his strength and emotional stability... and with that power/strength comes responsibility... We, men, strong are we are, should take care of our weak counterparts but not take control of them... Who are we to do that? Even God didn't control the woman...

In the end, for me, it really doesn't matter much what gender should a leader have... (although in the absence of any other information, by default I would go for a man over a woman to become a leader but fortunately that never happens in reality) I've seen a lot of men far more unstable/freaky than some women, and I've seen a lot of women who are far more stable than some men... I'm not a feminist, I just hate all these sexists stereotyping... We ought not to compete with women... we ought to love them regardless, since we can't live without them, and vice versa... If a woman tries to compete with you, maybe she's just trying to make a man out of you... let's show her then what a man is really made of...

March 05, 2008 5:18 am  

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