A Challenge for the Ladies
Here's a challenge for you: Teach men how to be men. You keep complaining about men being horrible, ignoble, cowardly, beastly and weak, and you want some meaningful power in your relationship? So do something about it!
You tried to no avail? I sympathize. But perhaps you aren't doing it right? Or maybe you are wasting your time with the wrong men? Or maybe you need a kick in the butt to reconsider how you are going about it. Pardon for the ungentlemanly kick but you wanted to be equal.
How can this be done? Sorry, my hands would fall off while typing that one out. Suffice it to say it does not involve bitching and nagging and it needs as criteria: love, marriage and commitment. Stop changing their wardrobe and furniture and try some inspiration. If you have men wrapped around your finger, what do you do with this power? Stand by your morals and values, be inspiring, and the good men will follow.
Wait a minute... you do have absolute values that would inspire a man, right? I mean, did you think your man would come pre-packaged with all his morals intact and that you only have to sit there and be cuddled? What does that make you, you useless creature?
I'm not saying only women have to inspire and work on their relationship; far from it. Very far from it. But for now I'm focusing on challenging your whining, passive atittudes. Like I said earlier, men are partly to blame for being such empty ignoble jerks and failing as leaders. If you have given up on men and finally find some meaning in your career and hobbies, then I sympathize and I wish you good luck. But it's a sad state of affairs.
Your existence doesn't depend on men? Oh, please! First of all, I never said it does. Second of all, if men are so insignificant, why do you talk about them all the time?
I know that most people don't change and that it's dangerous to go into a relationship planning to change someone. But I'm not talking about changing, I'm talking about bringing out the best in them. That's up to you.
Are you powerful enough to do it?