The Power of Women
So why do women wear impractical things and go to so much trouble and pain to be what the fashion world and society has deemed to be attractive? I've watched girls in amazement while they scream in pain and wax themselves, I stare at women almost spraining their ankles a few times a day because of high heels, and I wonder about ladies that spend hours applying makeup every day.
The fact is, women can attract men with one tenth of their arsenal and they know it. I'll never forget the time I started a mini-campaign to convince this female acquiantance that she looks attractive without all her makeup. I got her husband and another male friend whom we were hanging out with at the time to confirm this. Her facial expression said something like 'yes, that's all very nice but totally irrelevant and I have to wear this makeup so leave me alone'. Why?
My instincts tell me a typical woman loves attracting men not because she catches men in her net and gets many dates, but because their attraction to her makes her feel powerful and special. She attracts men solely for the looks and compliments.
In other words it makes them feel good about themselves and this deceives them into thinking that they do it for themselves. But you can't possibly convince me that wearing uncomfortable shoes or going through all this pain is for 'themselves'. If this were true, a woman would wear high heels on a desert island. Somehow I doubt this.
Of course one can argue that a woman does not get looks and compliments on a desert island and that perhaps she is doing all this out of insecurity, but again I must ask: why wear high heels when she can get the same attention in other ways? Society portrays attractive women as ones who wear heels and they all run to the shoe store to torture themselves. This has nothing to do with attracting men or getting compliments!
Other forms of behaviour are also too extreme to be explained away this easily. Case in point:
Nobody criticizes a woman's looks like another woman. Every time I hear a woman's unrestrained remarks about another woman, the harshness shocks me. If beauty was a thing women do for themselves, other women's looks wouldn't be so important.
For example, this thing about wearing the same dress as another woman at a party - what psychological drive does this come from? It's obviously not because this would ruin their chances with men; Many of the men wouldn't even notice what kind of dress they have on. Why are men content with wearing the same old elegant suit as 100 other men in the room yet women have to wear all the colors and shapes under the rainbow to ensure uniqueness?
Why this desperation to be unique and special in looks? Why do I get the feeling that women compete with each other for more and more sexual allure and power while men are an almost irrelevant gawking audience?
And why do women whine about being treated as sex-objects yet let themselves be exploited a million times a day for consumerism for a chance to be looked at and admired by more people? Why are many women so happy to pose for cameras? Have you ever looked at their behaviour in front of a camera and compared it to men's?
I'm almost afraid to take all this to one of two logical conclusions: Either it's plain vanity that is so strong it even pushes women to harm themselves in the name of fashion. Or it's the fact that many women feel their only source of worth and power is their sexual allure so they grapple for every ounce of it and it becomes a life-goal in itself.
This would also drive women to compete with other women to the point of knocking them down for every fashion faux pas. Fashion exploits this drive and gives women a weapon with which to rise above other women by buying a more expensive purse.
The argument that women are insecure, need compliments or are pressured by society may explain some behaviour but doesn't adequately cover the issues I raised.
And if the latter is true, then does this make the radical feminists, that out of idealism don't wear attractive clothes, makeup or shave, healthier than the rest? Or is this just another extreme? In some cases it may be a hateful reaction to a bad experience with men and has nothing to do with living an ideal. Some would even argue that the women who do this are the angry ones that aren't pretty in the first place and this is just a rebellious reaction akin to 'if I can't be the best then I'll live the other extreme and stick it in your face'. Or in other words it's a defensive behaviour that is instigated by the exact same pressure that other women are under to enhance their sexual allure.
As usual, I think the only healthy solution is the balanced one. In the meantime, I'll just gawk and giggle at you women while you flex your over-developed cosmetic muscles and knockout each other. Why not? After all, my opinion is irrelevant unless it's useful to get an edge over your competitor.